Saying goodbye

Two friends passed away over the last couple of weeks. Both were sudden, and both shook friends and family to the core. How does one adequately offer consolation at times like this, when the heart is broken? Struggling for answers, I wrote the following Tanka poem:

Perhaps you have lost someone recently, a friend, a loved one, a family member. If so, you know the abyss that opens and as well, the questions that arise with no answers. We hold to faith at times like this and simply walk forward as best we can. Time can heal the broken heart, but patience is elusive.

The final paragraph of my book, Letting Go, reads:

Deep within each of us, there is a well of love—a place of wholeness, a place of completeness. This sacred well is alive with wisdom and tenderness. It is our true self; it is where Perfect Love resides. This all-encompassing and unconditional love draws each of us home. And ever so slowly, as we grow more confident in our journey, letting go into Perfect Love becomes a way of being.

When tragedy strikes, it is easy to forget that we are on a journey.

12 thoughts on “Saying goodbye”

  1. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friends, Gwen. When my dad passed suddenly a few years ago, the only thing that helped me was picturing him in Heaven fishing- his favorite past-time. I pray your friends are enjoying their ‘favorite’ places, as well {{hugs}}

  2. I’m very sorry Gwen at the sudden loss of your friends. Your poem really hit the feelings of loss, longing for the past and crying for the tomorrows. I love the last paragraph and all the hope it left with me even after I finished your book. You are right it is hard to remember we are on a journey during these times, including the people we can’t see anymore, but their journey continues, too. Sending you a ton of hugs and love Gwen.

  3. Oh, Gwen, I am so sorry for the loss. Yes, there is a gaping abyss that exists when one we love leaves. Your Tanka is a beautiful expression from the heart. And those lines from your book – They gave me goosebumps when I first read them and again today. Exquisite is the only word that comes to mind! Hugs, sweet lady!

  4. One of the hardest things in life is losing loved ones. So sorry you have lost two people so close together. I love the final paragraph of your book, Sending you much love, Gwen xx

  5. My condolences on your recent losses, Gwen…it’s difficult to know what to say. I’ve been reading your blog today, especially the About, as well as other posts–there is so much here, and all so rich in depth of experience and meaning. Lots of triggers regarding loss… It’s been many decades since I read Frankl’s The Unconscious God, & Man’s Search for Meaning. The point about how we all have a choice about our attitude is a sticky one–perhaps there are seasons when choosing to be positive, have hope, are easier than others. I’ve had life-long depression, stemming from abuse issues–and in 2011 I had a spiritual epiphany that was wonderful. Oddly, there has been a gradual erosion of that joyful healing…I didn’t expect to be back in depression by my mid-60’s. But we soldier on, best we can. Thank you for your writing. Blessings to you, Ennle.

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